By:
Tory Duchene
Last Updated: March 4, 2026
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If your cat is nearing the end of their life, these thoughtful tips from Tory Duchene, a pet grief support specialist and founder of Empawthy Pet, can help you navigate this challenging time with as much grace and love as possible.
Things You Should Do If Your Cat Is Approaching the End of Their Life: Tips from a Pet Grief Support Specialist
1. Creature Comforts
Comfort becomes everything at this stage of life. Older cats are particularly drawn to warmth. Provide them with an electric heating pad or bed to soothe aching joints and keep them cozy.
If mobility is an issue, place rugs or anti-slip pet mats on slippery floors to make it easier for them to move around safely.
Adding pet stairs or ramps to help them reach their favourite window perch or spot on the sofa will be appreciated.
Provide a low-entry litter box for easy access, and consider placing multiple boxes in the areas your cat frequents most. The goal is to minimize effort and maximize comfort.
Being proactive about pain management is one of the greatest gifts you can give your cat.
2. Understand Their Pain, Even When They Hide It
Cats are masters of hiding pain. Just because they’re quiet, purring, or more vocal does not mean they are comfortable. Speak with your veterinarian about pain management options early on, especially if your cat has a painful chronic illness, such as arthritis or chronic kidney disease. Another great option is to research palliative or hospice-care veterinarians, many of whom offer in-home visits and can help guide you through this phase with compassion and honesty.
Mobile veterinarians are ideal for all cats, especially those who experience stress during car rides or vet visits. Some also offer alternative therapies such as acupuncture, laser treatments, and other holistic modalities designed to improve your cat’s comfort and quality of life. Being proactive about pain management is one of the greatest gifts you can give your cat.
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3. Create a Cozy Sanctuary
Unlike dogs, many cats prefer solitude when they feel unwell. Support their natural instincts by creating a quiet, tucked away retreat. A warm cave bed in their favourite hiding spot, a box lined with fleece blankets—wherever they like to retreat to, make that space extra cozy, warm, and special. Place food, water, and a litter box nearby so they don’t need to travel far. If feeding wet food, give them a breakfast-in-bed experience and create their own little sanctuary where they can rest and recharge on their own terms.
4. Prepare for a Peaceful Goodbye
This is the time to make a plan, not only for their peace, but for yours. It can help reduce panic during worrisome moments and allows space to think clearly. You can track your cat’s daily wellness using the Quality of Life scale available online or through your vet. Keep a journal to recognize shifts and patterns, and monitor good days versus bad. Share this information with your vet before a crisis arises.
Many families find comfort in having a mobile veterinarian help their pet transition peacefully through at-home euthanasia. In this way, your cat can be in a familiar and safe place, curled up in your arms, in their favorite bed, or soaking in the sun in your garden. Having a plan—and a list of mobile veterinary providers, local emergency vet hospitals, and vet clinics to reference—reduces last-minute panic and ensures a calm, loving farewell when it’s time.
5. Capture Special Moments
Ask a friend or loved one to capture some candid photos and videos of you and your cat together or have your own at-home DIY photoshoot. Record all the things you love about your cat, like their toe beans or their unique voice. These will be wonderful memories for you to cherish in the future.
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6. Spoil Them Daily
Now’s the time to pull out all the stops. Spoil them with something special every day. Do they love roasted chicken? Give them that for dinner! A generous spoonful of tuna? Yes, please. Bring out the catnip or silvervine and sprinkle generously on a rug or blanket. Let them roll around and experience joy. Put a bird feeder outside their favourite window. Turn on Cat TV on YouTube or bring them a new or favourite toy they love. Let them enjoy these indulgences—this is about quality of life, not strict routines.
“Pet them, kiss them, and tell them how deeply they are loved. These quiet, mindful moments are a gift for both of you. They feel your love. I promise.”
7. Be Present and Mindful
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Anticipatory grief during this time is normal. It’s the heartache you feel knowing your time together is limited, even when your cat is still right by your side. Be gentle with yourself. When feeling like it’s all too much, take a moment and breathe deeply. Stepping outside can also be quite grounding. After taking some time to do this, set the intention to be fully present with your cat. Pet them, kiss them, and tell them how deeply they are loved. These quiet, mindful moments are a gift for both of you. They feel your love. I promise.
This article originally appeared in the award-winning Modern Cat magazine. Subscribe today!
